Doxory Choices (subreption)The latest public Doxory choicessubreption: I have a live-in boyfriend (let's call him John) who loves me very much and who I have what I would consider a 7/10 relationship with. I also know a guy (Will) who could maybe give me a 9/10 relationship but who 1) has a girlfriend (who he'd maybe dump for me), and who 2) lives 1500 miles away [right now] but isn't committed to staying in that area.
I've cheated with Will off and on through the past 5 years during which I've had relationships with three different people. I have never been able to stay away from him. But John really loves me....subreption2007-05-19T18:24:28ZTry to develop my relationship with Will to the point where both of us want to leave our existing relationships / get to know each other better to the exclusion of others? In other words, go for the possible 9/10 even though in doing so, I may commit ethical wrong and inflict possible emotional harm to John? vs. Try as best I can to forget Will, even though I haven't been able to in the past, and commit myself fully to John? (Warning: this route would be extremely difficult.)