Doxory Choices (All)The latest public Doxory choiceskevinr: Arisia is the younger, hipper(, sexier?) Boston-area Science Fiction convention, which I enjoyed well enough when I attended a couple years ago but wasn't completely in love with. The MIT Mystery Hunt is a weekend-long puzzle-solving competition, the prize of which is getting to run next year's Hunt, and so this year it's being run by decent but non-MIT folk, so it will be fun, but less fun than usual, and Dan Katz's team will probably win it again. They both happen Columbus Day weekend in January, and I can't really do them both. Cost is not really an issue one way or the other....kevinr2009-08-07T02:49:25ZGo to Arisia vs. Do the MIT Mystery Huntkevinr: What should I use as a calendaring solution for the upcoming year?...kevinr2009-07-03T03:04:15ZBuy another pocket-sized paper planner, carry it with me at all times. vs. Switch to using Google Calendar from my phone, which I carry with me at all times and is almost always charged.Springer49: A group of us think it would be funny to go to a fast food place for Prom but 3 people think it is dumb and want to go to a fancy restaurant! But my date thinks it's dumb but I don't!...Springer492009-05-01T02:54:18ZGo with my date and do what she wants to do while being bored out of my mind? vs. Go with the fun group and tell my date that I will meet her at the dance?ianyh: I have two offers for summer internships from interesting startups in San Francisco. One of them would probably involve Java and Python and developing for mobile platforms and the other would involve Java and Ruby and mostly involve web development. Both seem pretty cool, but my interest is tipping slightly towards the former, but the latter is offering better immediate compensation---the former is offering me comparable compensation over a longer span of time....ianyh2009-04-26T02:26:59ZGo for the things I think I would perhaps enjoy hacking on more, but possibly not get paid until the end of next year. vs. Go for the immediate pay off, and probably still end up doing interesting things.lza: Graduate school in another year......lza2009-04-15T01:42:50ZStudy Information science to learn skills to be a web consultant vs. Teach myself and go for itozymandias: I have been married for about three years. One and a half months ago, my wife told me that she has fallen in love with a married co-worker and committed adultery. Initially, she was less than completely honest with me and continued to be in contact with the other man. It was only after one month that she told me the complete truth and agreed to go for counseling. She said the reasons for counseling is not to actually work on our marriage, but to help explain to me why it happened. At this moment, she still wants to be with the other guy because she believes he is THE ONE.
We have been in counseling for about two weeks now. She tells me she has fallen out of love for me for quite some time now. She recognizes that I have nothing but a good and loving husband towards her. She recognizes she has a big role in not maintaining the romance in our relationship. She says she's sorry for hurting me. But she also says that she does not apologize for falling in love. She says it just happened.
I am now in a fix. She believes counseling will help me understand why it happened better. Maybe forgive her. And she claims there is a 1% chance she may overcome her impulsiveness and decide to work on our marriage. But I am finding it extremely painful to continue. Especially with all her declarations that she no longer loves me and she loves the other man. I don't know if I can ever forgive the betrayal. Being a rational man, I find it hard to accept that things can just happen and that she can totally disrespect me in this manner....ozymandias2009-03-22T15:37:18ZJust accept that she no longer loves me and divorce her. Ending the misery of hearing she doesn't love me and begin moving on with the rest of my life. vs. Continue with the counseling, however painful it is right now, so that I can "understand her" and on the extremely slim chance that she will want to work on our marriage and it may survive.D4V1D: I'm bi and like this guy in my German class. I have hints he's bi and that may even like me. I want to tell him I'm bi, but I don't want to scare him away and ruin our current friendship....D4V1D2009-03-13T16:07:42ZShould I stay in the closet about me being bi vs. Should I go ahead and tell him himjdaviescoates: I part of a group discussion which is the "best" between...jdaviescoates2009-03-06T20:22:08Zjoomla vs. drupalxxvan: ok, so before i start, you need to know that my mom is dead set on me going to college and being a doctor. my entire family is. my uncle is even paying for part of the fees.
so, i dont know what to do. ...xxvan2009-02-21T22:16:05Ztell my mom my dream is be a drummer, and i dont want to go to college because it just doesnt feel right vs. keep pretending like my moms dream for me is my dream as well? and do i follow through with this?
im just scared of being disowned by my family, and being hated..but i dont know if i can be happy doing anything other than drumming in a band. nathanw: Cell phone plan: I have a $20/month unlimited internet plan on my account, which I used to use with my PDA (sometimes) and with my laptop while traveling (more often). I don't travel as much now and my PDA isn't as useful for network access. If I got a smartphone it would probably be on a different carrier or require a new plan anyway. However, the plan is grandfathered, and if I get rid of it I won't be able to get it back....nathanw2009-02-18T17:53:08ZKeep the plan: spend $20/month in case it becomes useful again. vs. Get rid of it.lakmiseiru: I want to open a Roth IRA for myself. I've already got accounts with Fidelity that I intend to keep, so it makes sense to open the Roth with Fidelity....lakmiseiru2009-01-27T19:37:15ZOpen a Roth online through my current Fidelity account login vs. Go find a Fidelity office and open one in person with an advisor-type of personmisterv: Allow my students to use a crib sheet on their exam...misterv2009-01-22T14:51:59Zyes, let them vs. no, do not let themsnobiwan: My city's public transit union is on strike, so about half of the time I have to take a cab to and from work, which eats up half my pay. It's the new year so I have three weeks of vacation I can use, and the strike will last at least two more weeks (it's already been going for three weeks)....snobiwan2009-01-04T03:42:29ZTake two weeks of vacation at full pay and wait out the strike from home. vs. Continue to go to work, because half pay is better than no pay, and two weeks of vacation stuck at home will get boring.cruiser: Growing up...cruiser2008-12-31T18:41:55Zgrow up vs. live in the pastspiffy13: First of all, I have a horrible conscious (spelling?) where I basically can't stand feeling like I have let anybody down, or have made anyone upset. I am currently seeing a psychologist to help me work through this - I basically will sacrifice my wants and needs in order to make sure everyone around me is happy. Anyways, the issue at hand is as follows - about a month ago my one friend told me that her boyfriend's family was comped a room in Atlantic City for New Years Eve, and asked if I would be interested in going up with the two of them, her boyfriends brother, and a group of our friends. I was absolutely down with going, and so I went out and got a new dress for the event. About 2 weeks ago, we found out we would need to pay for the hotel, which would be about 20 each for a night, and that we would be paying about 50 for a bar. Last week, that turned into 40 for two nights, and 165 for a bar. 2 people in our group of 8 bailed out when they found out we would be paying around 205 for the hotel/bar, and then 2 more people bailed out on Sunday for reasons that I don't really know. Basically, that now leaves me, my roommate, her boyfriend, and her boyfriends brother together in Atlantic City for 2 nights over new years. Plus, his family will all be up there for the holiday. My issue is that I honestly do not feel up to going up there to spend the holiday with just the 4 of us. I have a tendency to drink a lot and make bad decisions while drinking (another thing I am working with my therapist on), and I know that I am already feeling so negative about the entire thing that I am going to end up struggling to control my drinking and lord knows what I will end up doing. My roommate's boyfriend also has a tendency to become aggressive when he drinks, and if we were going in a large group of people, I would be able to get away from him, but now that its just 4 of us, I am worried that any drama that comes up will end up ruining our night. Plus, I am going to feel like a serious 3rd wheel when the people going are either dating or related. The bottom line is that I don't really want to go unless there are more people going that I would be able to spend time with and enjoy my new years with. I was fine with the original plans, but now that they have changed so much, I really just do not want to have to go through with these plans when I am feeling so strongly against going. I have already told my friend that I will still pay my share of the hotel room so that they don't get screwed over, even if I do not end up going. She is obviously really upset about the entire situation and suggested that she just wouldn't go at all if I didn't go, which I guess I don't really understand because at least she is still going to spend the evening celebrating with her boyfriend regardless of whether or not I am there......spiffy132008-12-29T22:15:58ZSuck it up, and try and put a happy face on and go through with the plans, even if that means being out 200+ dollars for something that I don't really want to do... vs. Go with my gut, and let my friend and her boyfriend and his brother go to celebrate New Years with one another, and still pay for the hotel room so they don't get screwed over money wise, and spend the holiday doing something more low key (and cheaper) while risking letting my friend down and feeling like a flake...AIM: whether i should get married(I am 28, M, Indian) if i am bankrupt!...AIM2008-12-07T19:56:25Zwait and save some money vs. just get marriedtselliott: I have 4 boys....tselliott2008-11-28T04:16:23Zforget about trying for girl forever and just deal with it. vs. try one more time for a girl.fisherama: I'm travelling with my family during Thanksgiving break, leaving Wednesday and returning Sunday. We're doing touristy things in a city (not hiking or camping or anything very outdoorsy)....fisherama2008-11-20T22:23:02ZBring my laptop. It might be useful for looking things up, email, working on course projects (which are soon after I get back), etc. vs. Leave my laptop at MIT and learn how not to be addicted to the internets.kevinr: My desktop is starting to show its age. I think I can make do for another year or two with just a memory upgrade, and as long as I stop running out of memory I don't /need/ a new desktop, but I can /afford/ to buy a new desktop....kevinr2008-11-19T05:10:54ZUpgrade the RAM vs. Buy a new desktopAlexR: Can anybody suggest software for new search engine Joe Blow Answers? Iâm looking for new features to add....AlexR2008-11-13T16:56:59ZAttract professional experts to answer questions vs. Attract users to answer questions